ALERT: I am by no means an expert, a therapist, or even someone whom I would say has been in a hugely successful relationship, but I will say that I am experienced in that I have seen a vast spectrum of them.
I've been out of a relationship for some time now, and thinking about new ones. I don't get out much, I am awkwardly shy at times, so I have been half-ass browsing on line. Yes, the only thing I have ever done half-assed. There are some odd damn birds out there. People who want to meet immediately, people who want to drag it out, analyzing each and every step like a chess match. People who immediately want to invade every aspect of your life, and people who… you wouldn't want around your livestock.
In speaking with some of these folks, and in watching all of the past and current episodes of the show Catfish on MTV, there is a very skewed vision of relationships these days. It's like everyone believes they are Rube Goldberg machines. Set up as if/then quantum potentials with known outcomes at every juncture. Yes, there are some that have known quantities. If my girlfriend goes to work at a strip club we will break up on the spot. No ifs ands or buts about it, zero questions about great money and getting ahead, fantastic vacations. I could give two shits, it ain't going to happen in my world ever again. That said, not every relationship is a specific chain of events. For example, why would someone go on line, put in their profile that they are a "hopeless romantic" looking for a relationship, and then be asinine about 'what' a relationship is by the very definition, and then immediately say that they do not want a relationship? For Fuck's sake, tell me not with me. Tell me that you've met someone else, that you're only capable of focusing on one person at a time, but do not unload your shit truck at my door step, and tell me that something is wrong with me, a person you met in person 3 weeks ago.
A relationship, in my humble opinion, should be something that grows. An organic entity that develops between two people not by force, not by labor, not by gravitas, not by grandeur, gifts, nor good words. It should evolve as the individuals within it evolve, changing, growing, adding layers, and releasing other layers as they become unnecessary, together and separately. Each relationship between individuals being totally different, uncompromising in their approach to respecting one another, being kind, being sweet, and being understanding of the individual that approaches that relationship.
I honestly think I would rather be alone now than have it any other way. I don't want to be in a machine. I don't want to be quantum projection. I want a living breathing organism filled with joy, abundance, sweetness, love, happiness and above all kindness and mutual respect; that, or nothing at all.
Next blog on Crazy Makers I promise LOL
I've been out of a relationship for some time now, and thinking about new ones. I don't get out much, I am awkwardly shy at times, so I have been half-ass browsing on line. Yes, the only thing I have ever done half-assed. There are some odd damn birds out there. People who want to meet immediately, people who want to drag it out, analyzing each and every step like a chess match. People who immediately want to invade every aspect of your life, and people who… you wouldn't want around your livestock.
In speaking with some of these folks, and in watching all of the past and current episodes of the show Catfish on MTV, there is a very skewed vision of relationships these days. It's like everyone believes they are Rube Goldberg machines. Set up as if/then quantum potentials with known outcomes at every juncture. Yes, there are some that have known quantities. If my girlfriend goes to work at a strip club we will break up on the spot. No ifs ands or buts about it, zero questions about great money and getting ahead, fantastic vacations. I could give two shits, it ain't going to happen in my world ever again. That said, not every relationship is a specific chain of events. For example, why would someone go on line, put in their profile that they are a "hopeless romantic" looking for a relationship, and then be asinine about 'what' a relationship is by the very definition, and then immediately say that they do not want a relationship? For Fuck's sake, tell me not with me. Tell me that you've met someone else, that you're only capable of focusing on one person at a time, but do not unload your shit truck at my door step, and tell me that something is wrong with me, a person you met in person 3 weeks ago.
A relationship, in my humble opinion, should be something that grows. An organic entity that develops between two people not by force, not by labor, not by gravitas, not by grandeur, gifts, nor good words. It should evolve as the individuals within it evolve, changing, growing, adding layers, and releasing other layers as they become unnecessary, together and separately. Each relationship between individuals being totally different, uncompromising in their approach to respecting one another, being kind, being sweet, and being understanding of the individual that approaches that relationship.
I honestly think I would rather be alone now than have it any other way. I don't want to be in a machine. I don't want to be quantum projection. I want a living breathing organism filled with joy, abundance, sweetness, love, happiness and above all kindness and mutual respect; that, or nothing at all.
Next blog on Crazy Makers I promise LOL
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